I can be extremely hard on myself.
This applies to all areas of my life, from relationships to health to business.
Truth be told, I’m probably worse than hard on myself: I’m unfair to myself.
You see, when I was young, this is not where I saw myself being at age 42.
Still trekking to an office several times a week, working for the man.
I always thought I’d be an independent entrepreneur by now, free to spend my time and money any way I wanted.
And I’m still hopeful that I can get there, but frequently I find myself falling back on regret.
Regret at all the time I wasted procrastinating, or starting project after project and letting them die on the table.
Regret about drinking too much, sapping my health, energy, happiness, and productivity.
Regret about always saying “I’ll do it tomorrow.”
Well, tomorrow is here, I have only myself to thank for not being where I should be at age 42.
But as one kind reader reminded me this week, that’s actually OK.
It’s all OK.
Here’s why.

The long and winding road
Recently, I wrote a piece about my biggest flaw as an online content creator and entrepreneur.
It was about how my impatience for success sunk me more times than I want to remember and my subsequent regrets over those failures.
But as
reminded me in the comments, we all take different paths in life that contribute to who we are.
Here’s what Steve wrote:
“Thanks so much for your article. I also really regret not having (seriously) started my writing career earlier. I was 50 before I committed to writing as a daily practise. Now it’s a vital part of my life I wouldn’t want to do without. And whilst I do regret time wasted, I also think my life experiences were necessary to help me build determination.”
And here’s what I wrote back:
“Steve, I know exactly how you feel, and I think you make a really good point here. I don’t know that I ever would have arrived at this point had my life not unfolded exactly the way it did.”
We are all flawed
I wanted to expand on that a little bit, because I think it’s so important.
When I started out on my writing journey, I touched on all kinds of topics, from writing to sports to politics to health.
For whatever reason, people really gravitated toward my very personal stories about my decision to quit alcohol.
I think people could see that I was a genuine person and had interesting things to say as I started to walk that path. People enjoyed walking it with me.
And I probably stood out because there are a lot of phonies here.
Let me give you one sickening example: about 5–6 months into publishing here, I noticed another writer who had really latched onto my tutorial content start to copy everything I was doing. Like everything.
Including suddenly writing about his own sobriety journey.
Only I could tell he was a liar right away.
He would write listicles filled with “personal anecdotes” that were so vague and not credible that it was clear he was drumming up a problem to try and cash in.
Later he would write posts about how he was making tens of thousands of dollars on side hustles with no evidence whatsoever.
It was all so transparent and cynical it made me ill.
Honestly, the very thought of someone pretending to have a substance abuse problem just to make money here turned my stomach.
Not surprisingly, that guy isn’t around anymore.
He quit. Probably because his work was bulls**t and nobody was reading it.
In my case, it was the desperation of hitting my personal rock bottom that was the catalyst for me to finally start something — i.e. rekindling my love of writing — and actually stick with it.
And it was exploring and sharing my FLAWS that resonated with people and built my initial audience.
This is much in the same way as I had to lose way too much money trading options to become a great long-term investor.
Our mistakes make us who we are — way more than our successes.
Steve reminded me of that.
Love yourself anyway
We’re all flawed.
I am. You are.
And you have a choice in how you deal with that.
You can wallow in self-pity, or you can embrace it and love what you learned from it.
It’s never, ever too late to build a writing business, get in shape, or chase whatever dream you have for yourself in your 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond.
Sometimes you just need a little more wisdom before you arrive there.
Publish Every Day project update: Day 102
I’m trying to see if I can make enough money to quit commuter life within 1 year by publishing every day on various platforms and putting my earnings into passive income investments.
How much I need to retire: $250 CAD per day
What I earned on Day 102: $51.14 (writing) + $1.74 (YouTube) = $52.88 total
What I’ve published the last few days:
This article about one sneaky great health benefit one rock icon discovered after he quit alcohol
A post about how much money I made from publishing for 100 straight days ($1000s)
Another post about how repeating this 1 money phrase can actually change every aspect of your life
Still looking for something to read? My top 5 trending stories right now:
Avoid 1 junk food this cardiologist won’t touch to stay thin, healthy
2 brutal habits block you from making big money writing online (quit now)
Beefy action star revealed 1 harsh truth of staying fit at 45
1 major flaw you must beat to start making BIG money writing online
Alcohol loses more steam as another celebrity tough guy quits at 47